A friend, a crush, a significant other, you can get through anyone
In our lifetimes we all have to go through trials to get to the good parts of life. Some trials are easy, and we may get past them easily. But other trials are hard and can feel like they are slowly ripping us apart. Recently I have experienced a trial that has felt like it was slowly ripping me apart from the inside and just completely ruining me. What is this trial you may ask? This is the trial of getting over someone.
Whether it is a friend, a boyfriend/girlfriend, a crush, or honestly anyone, getting over someone can sometimes be the hardest thing to do. Recently I had to get over someone in my life. And the path to getting there was so rough, I never thought I would be able to go on. This person was a lot like a best friend more than a boyfriend. I relied on him for almost everything and anything for almost two years straight. He recently has decided that he does not need me or want me in his life, anyway at all. And that hit me so hard, I felt like the whole world came crashing onto me, and I was slowly collapsing underneath it. What does one do when the main person in her life for almost two years decides that they do not need her anymore? Well, that is how I learned a few steps to getting over someone, and I decided to share it with you.
FOCUSING ON MYSELF
The first few days after this person left my life, I kind of realized how much I have not been focusing on myself. As a young, growing young woman this is kind of important to be caring and looking after myself. How were my studies? Was I getting enough sleep? How is my blog going? Am I smiling enough? Simple things like this I realized I was completely forgetting about because this person took so much of my mind away from me. So recently, I have not been on social media as much. I have been taking slow days with my dog, trying to catch up on sleep, going out with friends, working, and so much more. These are simple things that have gotten my mind off of this person and have made me realize how important it is to work on yourself before ANYONE else.
I have said this many times on my site, but here I am saying it again and again. Everything happens for a reason. You are getting over a person right now, and it probably sucks. But this is supposed to happen in your life. You may not understand it now but eventually, you will. You will stumble across new people and new events in your life that will make you completely forget about this situation, or it will at least help.
Trust me, nothing takes your mind off of a person faster than a really good laugh with friends or going out with a cute date. In fact, when is the last time you called a family member to ask how they have been? Small things like this can take your mind off of so many things!
DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU
Watch your favorite movie. Go on a run. Listen to music. You know what makes you happy, try to do small things to get there again. This trial will be hard but you have gone through so many tough times, now is just another one. You got this.